I’m going to pick things back up where I left them off from last night’s post.
“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell
This holds true to any area in our lives. I’d like to introduce you to Ali and Charlie. One chose an abortion and one chose life.
Meet Ali, she’s 25 and working full-time for a company that she has long since admired and hoped to work for since her freshman year of college. She wants her boyfriend to propose. She’s waited three years and done everything to prove that she is the perfect future wife. She even had an abortion last fall since he was not ready to be a dad just yet.
She cried and begged because she felt uneasy about it, but she went through with it because she didn’t want to lose him. She knew deep down inside that she could have had the baby and made it work, but she couldn’t fathom doing it without her boyfriend. What would her friends and family really think of her then?
Months had gone by and she couldn’t shake the feelings of guilt and remorse. She started to question her decision and her relationship with her boyfriend. She worried about their future and how they would raise other children together….
Now let’s meet, Charlie. She is 25 a recent graduate with a toddler. She is a single working Mom, which equates to some very stressful days, at times, but she gets to come home to her son and feel the love of a child.
She too got pregnant by her college-sweet heart when they were not trying. In fact it was the most in-opportune time since she had just finished up her freshman year of college. Her then boyfriend was a year away from graduation and by the time she found out she was pregnant they were unsure of where their relationship was going.
Charlie and her boyfriend were both petrified. His immediate suggestion was that she abort the baby because he was done and leaving school after next year and she had three more years of school! They couldn’t be tied down nor would he be tied down so young.
They slept on it and by the next morning, Charlie told him that she was having this baby. She would learn about her options for her child, but she will not abort the baby. Her boyfriend was upset for a day or so and then he came around. They decided to tell their families and work with a local pregnancy resource center.
They were shocked and pleasantly surprised that they could still achieve their educational goals and have a baby. Through much discussion and planning they decided that they would raise the child themselves.
Both Charlie and Ali had doors open and close before them.
Ali stood and looked at her closed door. She longed for her past and the feelings that she once had with her boyfriend before she found out she was pregnant.
Charlie gently closed a door and started making strides towards the new open door and still continues to do so.
Which door do you want to move through?
XO — Ashlee
PS – Today Ali has opened a door and talks freely to other post-abortive women. It’s taken a lot of work, but she has healed and learned a great deal about herself. She volunteers at her local Pregnancy Resource Center to help other women through their pregnancies.
* Names have been changed. *
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